So here is the Ring...(It was his mother's ring from her first marriage. Most would consider this bad JuJu, but to him/us it's a way of taking an item that had seen bad times and giving it a second chance to do it right. Both of our families have had a high divorce ratio and we both have the mentality that this is a one time thing. Shoot, while all other girls in my class had their wedding planned in 7th grade, I was more concerned with art and didn't have my 1st boyfriend til 10th grade. haha Clearly I was in no rush)
AND the proposal story:
It was a cold and frozen Dec. 17th night at my parents house in Indiana. (We flew out for the holidays) I was laying on the couch watching "Ever After" the Cinderella story starring Drew Barrymore and Josh was in the kitchen painting a gourd for my grandma's boyfriend. (Little back story: My grandma's boyfriend Bill has been bugging Josh to paint a gourd to go in his pole barn for years. His pole barn is FILLED with crazy goodies, like TGI Fridays decor on crack. Any-who, Bill has had various bouts with cancer and it just started to arise again, so Josh decided he would surprise him with the gourd he wanted, even though it is an odd medium to paint on.) Josh had been working non-stop on this custom, amazing gourd with caricatures of my grandma and Bill on it. Barely even stopping to take breaks.
So Josh comes into the living room where I am watching the movie. He tells me how much he loves me, then kneels down, on both knees (oh yes I got both knees) and says how happy I make him and that he would like to ask me to be his wife. I of course with no hesitation I say, "YES!" He then takes the ring out and neither of us know what hand a wedding ring goes on. LOL So we decide it's the right hand...which is the wrong hand, we figured it out after we Googled it. =) Then of course Facebooks were updated, and I texted my best friend Michelle.
This wasn't the original way Josh was going to propose to me. He had planned to do it at my Dad's side of the families Christmas (on the 18th) But the day of the 16th was when he asked my mom permission to ask if he could propose...BUM BUM BUM!
My mom is a lovely, amazing, all heart Italian/polish women. She's the kind of women who is all peaches and cream until it comes to serious matters dealing with me. Then the Italian mafia women comes out. Which I absolutely love about her. Best Mom ever! So while I was in the shower and Josh and my mom were alone. (My dad had been working double shifts and was scarce the first week we were out so he sadly couldn't be present) So Josh and my mom were joyously talking when Josh brought out the ring and my mom went from laughing to serious face in .01 seconds flat.
My mom asked, " What's that?"
Josh says, " An engagement Ring"
Mom: "What's it for?"
Josh: "I want to ask Shannah to marry me."
Mom: "Are you gonna treat her good"
Josh: "Of course, I love Shannah more than anything."
Then my mom, not really giving a direct yes or no to the situation, goes on to asking about when we will be wed, and that we have to give them time to save...and so on. (My mom is a very well organized person and plans things out WAY in advance. She wanted my Christmas list in September/October and is done shopping at the end of November. haha) The whole time Josh was like, "I only got as far as asking her to marry me." Then of course my mom wanted to know how he was going to do it. Josh told her he was going to propose at my Dad's side Christmas in front of the family. My mom's reply:
"That's kind of impersonal don't you think?" Josh was perplexed, his nervousness about asking me grew. Then Josh heard the shower water stop running and put the ring away so I wouldn't catch on. Josh and my mom went on with normal conversation with me non the wiser. Josh still wondering if he even had my mother's approval, until I stepped out of the room and my mom approached him and said "I'm very excited!"
To add even more pressure he was texting buddies about how he was going to propose to me and one replied, "What if she says no?" Josh hadn't thought about that and the stress grew. What if I did say no in front of my family? He'd just crawl into the corner and die. So he asked the night before. Which I can't blame him. =)
Josh had a super sweet way he was going to propose at my dad's sides Christmas too. He had bought a handmade teapot that was in the shape of a Chinese fish and wanted to glue a 3 yard ribbon to the lid, with reasons he loved me and how I was a good catch (get it fish, catch...moosh moosh) and at the end of the ribbon would be the ring, and he would then ask me to marry him.BUT my mom scared him out of it haha. Although I loved the idea of the fish teapot, but it is not my style to be center of attention in a crowd, so I loved how he proposed. We still have the teapot and always will.
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